Supporting a Loved One Through Miscarriage
If someone you care about has experienced a miscarriage, it's natural to want to offer support and comfort during this challenging time. But it can be so hard finding the right things to say or do to support them. Like, really hard.
Having a miscarriage is a deeply personal and devastating experience that can leave that person and/or couple grappling with a range of complex emotions. It’s hard because there’s no words you can say to make it better.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t be there for them…
Don’t underestimate the power of just being there.
One of the most meaningful ways to support someone through their miscarriage is to listen. Create a safe space for them to express their feelings, thoughts, and concerns without judgment. Don’t offer unsolicited advice or attempt to minimize their grief. Validate their feelings and offer reassurance that it's okay to mourn their loss in whatever way feels right to them.
Respect their boundaries.
Everyone grieves differently, and there is no "right" or "wrong" way to process the loss of a pregnancy. Don’t impose your own expectations or timelines onto your loved one. Ask how you can best support them and be responsive to their needs and preferences.
Respect their privacy if they prefer to grieve privately or limit interactions with others during this time. Try to support in other ways if this is what they need.
Show your support.
In the aftermath of a miscarriage, practical support is invaluable. Simple gestures like preparing meals, running errands, sending them a self-care box or helping with household tasks can make a world of difference. Having a supportive presence by their side can provide reassurance and comfort during difficult moments.
Don’t be silent.
There is so much stigma around infertility and child loss that sometimes we feel like we can’t say anything. Acknowledging the significance of their loss is essential. Use sensitive language to express your condolences and validate their grief. DON’T say things like, "Everything happens for a reason" or "You can try again."
Instead, offer heartfelt words of sympathy and support. Even something as simple as "I'm here for you" or "I'm here to listen whenever you need or want to talk" goes a long way.
Time doesn’t heal all.
Grieving the loss of a pregnancy is a process that unfolds over time, and your support is needed beyond the immediate aftermath of a miscarriage. Check-in with your loved one regularly to see how they're coping and offer ongoing support as needed. Remember important dates, such as the due date or anniversary of the miscarriage, and reach out with a message of support or a simple gesture to let them know you're thinking of them.
For when you don’t know what to say, The Vine Box is here for you.
We lovingly offer gift boxes designed for those going through pregnancy loss. Each box is carefully assembled with soothing items that provide comfort, offer hope, and support when it’s needed most. Our boxes are more than just gifts—they represent your care and thoughtfulness towards your loved one.
“Our journey through infertility, pregnancy loss, and the joy of finally having our daughter inspired the creation of The Vine Box. We understand firsthand the loneliness, grief, and hardships accompanying these experiences. We crafted these beautiful boxes to extend comfort and support to others facing similar challenges.”
If you are 1 in 6, I see you. Sending you so much love.
